Everyone talks about how to become “happier”:

Yada yada yada (even though I agree with them).

But we overlook a simpler solution:

Eliminate the bad habit preventing your happiness in the first place.

We know we shouldn’t do it. Yet we do it daily without thinking twice.

So, what is this terrible habit?


Judging situations as good or bad, right or wrong.

Judging other people’s ideas, beliefs, actions, looks, and decisions, as well as our own.

Every time we judge something, we lower our energy and consciousness. And it strips accomplishment away from our future.

How Does Judgment Destroy Your Happiness and Success?

Judgment negatively impacts us…

Too often, we fail to achieve our goals.

We want to quit our job and start a business, but our idea doesn’t go anywhere.

We want to get leaner, but we give up before losing just five pounds.

We want to get better at talking to women, but we don’t start any conversations.

So we try to improve our actions. But that’s why we continue to fail.

How Your Thoughts Determine Your Life

I originally titled this “How Your Thoughts Determine Your Life” but it wasn’t nearly as catchy or descriptive. The concept is important though.

You see, our thoughts determine our emotions and our emotions…

It’s not often that a book completely changes my life. The last time this happened (until just recently) was last year when I read Atomic Habits by James Clear (a fantastic book on changing and designing your habits).

But right now I have two books that have changed my life in the last month. So I decided to tell you about them in case they can help you.

Be warned-the links I provide are affiliate links and may make me extremely wealthy. …

If you’re like most people, you want to live a good life. One that excites you and leaves you fulfilled.

You want to accomplish meaningful goals, enjoy life with people you love, and make a positive impact on the world.

In essence, you want to live a life you love.

If this is you, read on to learn the 12 habits that automatically help you create your best life.

1. Exercise

Exercise is essential to becoming your best self.

It immediately increases your energy, improves brain function, and fosters positive feelings by releasing endorphins.

The long-term improvements to your brain and body…

Learning how to craft the perfect DM when reaching out to influential people is an essential skill, especially when you want to grow your business or following.

My man Danny agrees with me — learning how to make friends on the internet is one of the most valuable skills you can learn.

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February 2020 was an exciting month. I moved my family to Austin, Texas—a state I had never even stepped foot in.

I couldn’t wait to make new friends and start a new life. Then, Coronavirus came and the quarantine happened.

After settling into our new stay-at-home routine, I concluded: It’s going to be a while before I make any friends.

The Entire World is Shook

Everybody is affected by this pandemic and each person is dealing with their unique combination of changes—wearing masks, working from home, social distancing, canceling trips, etc.

The impact is significant and our social lives have diminished.

We don’t talk to…

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Whoa. I shake my head and snap out of zombie mode after mindlessly scrolling through Twitter for an hour.

I sat at my computer to write, but I haven’t accomplished anything. My Google Docs page is blank and my brain is fried.

What’s worse, I don’t even know why this happened. How did I lose an hour of my life?

The Road to Hell is Paved with Good Intentions

When we create goals, we often design a game plan to guide us to success.

If you want to write a 300-page book, you may decide to write one page every day. Do that and you’ll have a book written…

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You hit publish and excitement surges through your body. It was worth 30 hours of your life because this is your best article yet.

Until a few days later.

Why didn’t my article get more engagement? Why didn’t more people read and love it?

It’s a crushing feeling, I know. I wrote a blog that didn’t get any readers for almost a year. And now I’m starting a new blog and Medium account, each with no audience.

We all want our articles to get attention and praise. That’s the point, isn’t it?

We want to grow our following, increase our…

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We live in a world where people chase extremes. I recently saw an article titled How to Maximize Your Happiness. Then, that same day, I skimmed past a headline that read How to Get the Most Meaning Out of Life.

One article says you should focus on happiness while the other argues for meaning. But what if both are wrong? What if the entire philosophy behind those two articles is leading people astray?

How to Screw Up Your Life Without Realizing it

Everyone falls somewhere on the short-term/long-term thinking continuum. At one extreme, people live for today and today only. All their decisions solve one problem—how do I enjoy…

I always believed that I’d accomplish my goals and live my dream life.

Working for myself, doing what I want, when I want.

Only it didn’t happen. And I almost gave up on myself, succumbing to a lifetime of 9-to-5.

But there’s one thing I’ve noticed in life:

When you think you’ve failed and don’t believe you can accomplish your mission, you’re closer to success than you realize.

Remembering this, I decided that quitting isn’t an option.

This year, I’m determined to make big strides toward my goals. I’m going to show you my exact plan because I’ve learned a…

Rob Riker

I write for positive people determined to chase their dreams. Creating my dream life transparently at robriker.com

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